Good Things I’ve Learned About Criticism

You know, from what I can understand, Criticism means a judgment stating that something isn’t as good as it could be, and may haunt us and leave us feeling humiliated, degraded, hollow, and then we launch counterattack..

I don’t believe anyone is completely immune to being hurt by criticism, unless they’re void of emotion, but it does get easier over time. And, Honestly, I’d rather hear what I’m doing wrong than what I’m doing right. I can’t correct anything unless I know what I may be doing wrong, especially at this young age..

So, I would like to tell you some good things I’ve learned about criticism..


  • Brings Me Back “Down to Earth”
    Too much praise will stilt your personal growth and fuel your ego until you feel like whatever you say or do is irreproachable. Loving criticism (and not simply blocking it out completely) keeps me level-headed and be more human. I am not perfect. I will make mistakes and at times I deserve criticism. And, I’m really be grateful that people are willing to take their time to disagree with me..

    Prepares Me More
    Life is a series of criticism. Wait. No. That doesn’t sound like me. Life kicks butt, but I do have to accept, that no matter what I do, I’ll be wrong according to someone else, and that means I’ll be criticised. And if I’m not criticised, then I’m not trying hard enough to be amazing. Each critique I face is a stepping stone towards a thicker skin.

    Reconsider to Change
    What I’ve noticed, Most criticism will be from trolls – people simply trying to make me feel bad, maybe. But, there is an occasion, I will be met with logical arguments and genuine discussion. I can identify these moments because I’ll feel defensive. That defensiveness, actually, is a sign that there is a lack of congruence in what I was holding. Then, it makes me think, that something’s not right and I need to reconsider for a change about what I’m doing, saying or thinking..

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Harsh Truths of My Real Life

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They say life is what we make of it. But for me, I don’t know.. For some reason, it can be true, but mostly it’s not that simple…

There is no doubt that life has its ups and downs. However, how we deal with them can sometimes make all the difference. Yeah, I want to share life harsh truths that I could learn from my own life..

     

  1. Friends Just Come and Go
    When I was in high school at my hometown, sometimes I imagined spending most of my life with the same people. Then when I realized I had to move to college, that all changed. Once again, I made some close college friends but left them all behind when I moved when I’ve got the job.
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    Friends will always come and go in my life; even though somehow I would have time to meet them again, but just for reunion, right..??? And now, all my friends are around the country and not exactly in meeting distance. It’s the thing that have to accept, many of the friends I spend time with now, might not be around in the next few years.

    What I’ve Learned: There are an abundance of amazing people out there for you to meet and build relationships with. If you don’t have many friends, don’t stress, there are literally billions of friendship possibilities.

  3. I Won’t Always Get Exactly For What I Want
    I know exactly all my dreams. I used to be able to get it, you know. But, just not exactly like what I’ve imagined. There were always twist and turn that made little bit different from what I’ve expected. Yeah, I mean, in all areas of my life. My job, habit, friends, mentor/supervisor/boss, or other people that I’ve ever met, and also items that I really want to have.
  4. Yeah, maybe You won’t always get what you want in life: people are going to be late, people will let you down, items you want won’t always be available, etc.

    What I’ve Learned: Don’t look for happiness in material possessions and if things don’t go your way, learn to accept them. Life’s too short to stay miserable.

  5. Many People Will Like You, but Many Will Not
    Yeah, I know and I can see it. Whether you are a celebrity, a charity worker or just a normal guy, there are going to be people that love you and like or admire what you do, but there’s also going to be plenty people that don’t like you. There are many possible reasons such as jealousy, similarities to them, or just not being someone’s ‘type’.
  6. What I’ve Learned: Not everyone is always going to like you, and that’s fine. If people want to spend time talking about you then that is their problem. You are perfect as you are. You shouldn’t need everyone to like you to have some form of self-esteem.

  7. Nobody Can Transform Your Life Like You Can
    Wouldn’t it be lovely if we didn’t have to go up on stage, but we could just read a paragraph of a blog post and become a perfect public speaker? Or, wouldn’t it be nice if our friends could do daring things, and we would benefit from them as well?
  8. The support and help of others can only take you so far, you’re going to have to do your own thing to make big changes in your life situation.

    What I’ve Learned: Do things for yourself and learn to stand on your own two feet. People you rely on won’t be around forever, and you don’t want to have to use others as a crutch to get anywhere in life.

  9. Experienced The Fail
    Before I got my current job, I’ve submitted so many application to lots of company. All of them are oil & gas related. I’ve ever failed to pass test, failed on interview process, and ever failed on medical check-up too. But, one thing for sure, I know what I want, so I just keep trying and trying, learned to understand the cause (why couldn’t I pass interview, etc), even my friends disapproved or even laughed me about it.
  10. As the saying goes – “Only those who are asleep make no mistakes”, right..???

    What I’ve Learned: You can learn a lot from others, but it is your own failures that are going to teach you the most valuable lessons in life. Learn from your failures, embrace them, and use them to drive you on to success.

  11. Rain Will Sometimes Cancel Play
    On some occasions when you have your shorts on and you’re ready for the beach, it’s going to rain. Or, when you get to that first hole and you’re ready to tee off – the clouds will open. Things aren’t always going to go how you would like them to.
  12. What I’ve Learned: Don’t stress about the things that you can’t control. Learn to live with things that happen. Because I know, I can’t change the past, but I can change how that I react to things.

  13. There May Be No Tomorrow
    At least, not for you anyway. We never know what is around the corner, a car crash, a heart attack; heck…even the end of the world is possible. Let’s face it, although we would all like to live till we are 70 years old, that’s certainly not always the case. There will be one day that is our last.
  14. What I’ve Learned: Make the most of each day. Make sure the people you care about actually know it, don’t worry about little matters, just make sure you spend time doing the things you love.

  15. Someone Else Will Always Have More
    Whether it is money, partners, friends or even blog subscribers, there will always be areas where other people have more than you. That isn’t to say you can’t become abundant in whatever you want (i.e. someone always had more money than Warren Buffett until 2008 when he was noted to be the richest man in the world).
  16. The wanting of more actually holds a very important lesson…

    What I’ve Learned: Just because someone has ‘more’, that doesn’t mean they are happy. Read the biography of any celebrity and they will tell you they enjoy their process of earning money, rather than what money can do to make them happy. In other words, focus on what you love, not what the thing you love can get you.

     

CHUCK – TV Series

Chuck - TV Series

My rating : 8.0/10
Genre : Action – Comedy – Romance – Drama
Plot:
When a twenty-something computer geek inadvertently downloads critical government secrets into his brain, his former college friend turned CIA recruits him as a secret agent, all while keeping him out of evil hands.
(Computer geek by day, Government operative by night)

More Info: here….


Really it is a classic story about man who is being forced to be the man he is meant to be. Chuck has the potential to be someone that can own Software Company but years as a lowly computer store clerk have obliterated his self confidence. On the flip side, it is the story of a girl who has been running around saving the world and just wants a normal life.

I guess if you don’t have sympathy for the character you will never understand what is great about this show. It is FAR more than a bunch of spy clichés.

Very Enjoyable (if you take it for what it is)

The main character, Chuck, is a geeky, modest, conscientious and somewhat shy person who is suddenly faced with many challenges in his daily life, trying to keep together the different parts of his life at the same time. His field of expertise is fixing computers. We watch as Chuck Bartowski become an unwilling CIA agent but is completely clueless on how to behave like one.

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10 Answers You Should Know Before Job Interview

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With the competition keener than ever and the economy in a slump, you need to prepare for your job interview thoroughly. It’s no longer enough to offer a firm handshake to your interviewer, make eye contact, and nod pleasantly now and then. You need to prepare a dynamic application letter and resume. You need to research the company. And you need to present a confident image and develop the ability to answer tough questions on the spot.

Although no one can predict the questions your potential employer will ask, you can think about how you’d answer some of the commonly asked ones. Here are ten questions for you to consider and a few hints about how to answer them:

  1. Tell me about yourself.
    Chances are the employer doesn’t want to know how much you weighed when you were born, when you learned to tie your shoes, or how much you had to drink last night. He or she wants to know how you would fit into the company and what your relevant job experience is. You might answer by asking the interviewer what he’d like to know. Or you might talk about your education, the fact that you’re a team player, or whatever you think might be important to this particular company.
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  3. Why should we hire you?
    Even though five people may be waiting outside, you need to sound confident, calm, and capable. Explain how your experience has prepared you for the job. Emphasize the qualities you think the employer is looking for, such as your outstanding work ethic or the fact that you’re a fast learner.
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Karakter Manusia Berdasarkan Status Facebook

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Ngupdate status di Facebook mungkin sudah jadi makanan sehari-hari kita ketika lagi berstatus On-Line. Mo apa aja, dijadikan status. Ada yang penting, ada yang “sok penting”, dan ada juga yang nggak penting sama sekali..hahahah..

Tapi, Kalau dilihat fenomena update status di Facebook tsb, manusia-nya dapat dikategorikan sebagai berikut (Just for Fun kq…he3…) :

1. Manusia Super Update
Kapanpun dan dimanapun update status. Status nya ga panjang2 amat..Tapi terlihat bikin risih, karena hal-hal yang gak terlalu penting juga dipublikasikan.

contoh :
“Lagi makan di restoran A..”, ”
Dalam perjalanan menuju neraka..”,
“Saatnya baca koran..”, dsb..

“penting” banget kek-nya yak..???

2. Sok tau..
Sotoy tenarnya..

contoh :
“pemerintah selalu memanjakan rakyatnya.. bla…bla… bla..”

Uih, kek-nya jago banget dah, padahal ga tau apa yang ditulis..ha3

3. Manusia Melankolis
Biasanya dia curhat di status. Entah karena ingin banyak diberi komentar dari teman-temannya atau hanya sekedar menuangkan unek-uneknya ke facebook, tapi biasanya orang tipe ini menceritakan kisahnya dan terkadang menanyakan solusi yg terbaik kepada yang laen..

contoh :
“Kamu sakitin aku..lebih baik aku cari yang lain..”,
“Cuma kamu yang terbaik buat aku..terima kasih km sudah sayang ama aku selama ini..”, dsb..

Curhat kq di status..??? kliatan banget lonely-nya…

4. Manusia Tukang Ngeluh
Ga pagi, ga siang, ga malem, ga dikasih ujan, ga dikasih panas, ga dikasih uang, ga dikasih makan, pokonya semuanya dia keluhkan..

Contoh :
” Jakarta maceeet..!! Panas pula..”,
“Aaaargh ujan, padahal baru nyuci mobil..sialan. .!!”,
“Males ngapa2in.. cape hati gara2 si do’i..”, dsb..

Nggak ada kerjaan banget kek-nya, ngeluh-ngeluh aja…

5. Manusia Sombong
Mungkin beberapa dari mereka gak berniat menyombongkan diri, tapi terkadang orang yang melihatnya, yang notabene tidak bisa seberuntung dia, merasa kalo statusnya itu kelewat sombong, dan malah bikin sebel..

contoh :
“OTW ke Paris ..!!”,
“BMW ku sayang, saatnya kamu mandi..aku mandiin ya sayang..”, dsb..

Buat apa sih gini-gini..??Biar semua orang tau..??emang klo orang dah tau, trus..???

6. Manusia Puitis
Dari judulnya udah jelas. Status nya selalu diisi dengan kata-kata mutiara, tapi ga jelas apa maksudnya. Bikin kita terharu? Bikin kita sadar atas pesan tersembunyi-nya? Atau cuma sekedar memancing komentar? Sampai saat ini, tipe orang seperti ini masih dipertanyakan..

Contoh :
“Kita masing-masing adalah malaikat bersayap satu. Dan hanya bisa terbang bila saling berpelukan”,
“Mencintai dan dicintai adalah seperti merasakan sinar matahari dari kedua sisi”,
“Jika kau hidup sampai seratus tahun, aku ingin hidup seratus tahun kurang sehari, agar aku tidak pernah hidup tanpamu”, dsb…

Aduh, sok puitis, padahal nyiplak quote dari manaaaa gitu…ha3

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Figuring Things Out – The Real Life..

Right Place, Right Time

Life after graduate from college? I wish I could tell you..!!

My life, evolves..

It never turns out to be what I exactly expected.

It’s full of surprises, full of adventure, also, lots of problem too..


Sometimes, I found a hard truth, real truth, sometimes an inevitable truth..
Yeah, that’s life. If nothing else, its life..
It’s real, and sometimes the fact, it hurts..

But it’s sort of all we have, right..??

Yeah, When I see clearly from everything in my real life for now,
I can understand,

Great moments of my life won’t necessarily be the things I do,
They’ll also be the things that just happen to me.
I’m not saying I’m not take action to affect the outcome of my life.
I’ve tried so hard in every aspect of my life, you know..
But, I always believe about something that, on any day,
I could step out the front door and my whole life can change forever.
For example,
A few months ago, when I have to attend an interview to this company where I’m working right now. Simple interview, and out of nowhere, I got my dream job..

You see,
The universe has a plan..And that plan is always in motion.
A butterfly flaps its wings…and it starts to rain.
It’s a scary thought.
But it’s also kind of wonderful.
All these little parts of the machine constantly working,
making sure that I end up exactly where I’m supposed to be,
exactly when I’m supposed to be there.
The right place…at the right time. And, Here I am…

So, there you have it..
There’s a lot of little reasons why the big things in our lives happen.
If I had known then where all those little things were leading me,
and how grateful I’d be to get there..
Because somehow, I ended up in the right place at the right time.
Especially when you consider how easy it end up there..
And, as a result, my life would never be the same..

Yeah, I’m just excited to see things that are waiting for me in the future, you know.. 🙂

What an Amazing Weekend..

Here I Am

Well, after got holiday for a few days, weekend to home sweet home, where I can just relaxed and enjoyed the moment, far away from job & work complex, and forgetting all problems for a while, then, I feel so “new”..
Yeah, I really needed this actually…

I’ve met my family, seen my old room, and guess what, all stupid picture still on the wall, 🙂 played football in my hometown, Laugh on stupid memories from the childhood with my old friends..
What a great time..

When I was going back to Dumai for work again,
I was followed with song from Bryan Adams – Here I am…
It’s really fit as my life soundtrack for now.. 🙂

Here I am..This is me,
I come to this world so wild and free…
Here I am, so young & strong,

Right here in the place where I belong..

It’s a new world,
It’s a new start,

It’s alive with the beating of young hearts,


It’s a new day,
It’s a new plan,
And the future is waiting for me,
Here I am…

I felt fresh, and ready to continue my journey..
Self Development & Continuous Learning, The chapter has continued..
So young, and So hungry..
So hungry for knowledge, Life experience, & Meaningful contributions…
Time to accept responsibility for the future with less complaining…
Here I am…

Mom & Dad, I’m Coming Home..

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Finally, I got holiday time for couple of days…
And, I’m coming home, tonight…

God..It’s been more than a year that I haven’t seen my home.
Yeah, Home..The only place in this planet that I can consider as heaven.
A place where I’ve been raised with warm love of wonderful family..
A place where I was born and grew-up, studied and played, cried and laughed..
A place with thousands memories..

You know, whatever things that I’ve been through right now,
inevitable struggling of job complex, or stressful process for Self Development,
I always know one thing for sure, FAMILY COMES FIRST..
That’s why, When I have a time to come home, I go.
Even, just a little bit of time.

Before I went away to college far away from my hometown,
I’ve made promise to myself.
That, I wouldn’t let down my parent’s hope,
In academic things, character, religion, and financial.
To be a kid that have been gifted by God to my parents.
To be a kid that took part as God’s presents to my parents.
Not just a kid that is throwing his life to nothing.

Whaaaw…
Mom & Dad..Look at me, look at your son for what he has became right now..
Please, enjoy the moment and the pride, You both deserve it..
Son that you’ve raised through pain, tears, joy, and love..
When I open the door’s home, and meet them,
the first thing that I want to do is to cry on their hand,
with a heart of fully respect and so thankful..
So they both know, How much I love & Miss them,
and how much I feel grateful to have parents like them..

Mom & Dad..
Deep inside my heart, I do really hope,
You both always feel grateful to God, because God gives you a son like me..
That’s one of my basic principle for my way of life…
Love you, Mom.. Love you Dad…

My Role as Piping / Pipeline Engineer in Oil & Gas Industry

From here :

Wisuda Armet

To here :

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My father said to me once: “Life is a journey.
And the road we travel has twists and turns,
Which sometimes lead us to unexpected places, and unexpected people.”

Yeah, I really understand that. Lots of unexpected things happen to me. A few years ago, I was just no one, just a kid from small town.

But now, you see, after I’ve graduated from Bandung Institute of Technology (ITB), God gives to me my dream job as Piping / Pipeline Engineer in EPC Oil & Gas multinational company. As Piping / Pipeline Engineer, currently, I am being assigned to the field, involving on Project at LBO Plant of Pertamina RU II in Dumai, Indonesia.

The picture is an example of my photo when I’m standing in front of Piping System at project location where I have to sketch the modification based on Code ASME B31.3 and Client (Pertamina-SK) requirements.

Piping Systems

Well, what can I tell you about Piping / Pipeline Engineer’s life? Before answer that question, I would like tell you about Piping System first. The piping systems are an essential and integral part of our modern civilization just as arteries and veins are essential to the human body. In Oil & Gas industry, Piping System is carrying crude oil from oil wells to tank farms for storage or to refineries for processing. You can see the picture below to get the idea about Piping Systems application.

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Self Awareness..

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For every being cursed with self-awareness,
there remains the unanswerable question:
Who am I?
How do I “connect” with others?
There are nearly seven billion people on this planet.
Each one, unique, different.

We struggle to find meaningful connections to one another.
Maybe, We are the caring friend…
or, The loving father…
The doting mother…
The protected child…

We fight and we love in the hope that somehow,
together, we can understand our significance in the universe..

But in the end, no one can share our burden.
Each of us alone must answer the question…
“Who am I?”
“What does it mean to be alive?”

And in the vast infinity of time,
“how do I matter?”


This quote is from Heroes 3rd Season Eps 24.. This quote strikes me at some points. Yeah, of course about myself, my future, and my world. By my world, it means, my faith & believe to God, my family that I’m really grateful, my friendship circle with easy judging attitude, my job that makes me struggle to understand, or, wondering the girl that I can introduce as my wife someday.. And, how do I matter for all..??

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