2013 : NOT “Walk The Path”, But “Surf The Sea”

After he hit the ball, he directly go to round first,
things that he never done before,
without realizing any other things..
Here’s what’s really interesting.
When he arrived on round first, people laughing at him.
Because, he didn’t realize the ball went over the fence.
He hit a home run and didn’t even realize it.
Yes, It’s a metaphor..

(~Moneyball Movie)

It’s already 2013 now. I’m brimming with optimism and happy to welcome this new year. Particularly, because what I’ve done back in 2012. I’ll always treasure the 2012 as the year when I able “to make things happens”, a chapter of dream come true, so to speak. And yes, it all look too perfect.

And truth is, I’ve never been in this phase of my life before. I used to live on “chasing the dream”, but once I got the dream, and continue living with all the routine in it, I felt that I need to adapt on actually “how for living in the dream” itself.

The thing is, previoulsy, I used to look at goal setting as picking a destination, then figuring out a path how to get there, trying to enjoy the ride, and be happy with the journey. Only, after I’ve arrived there, I realized that “destination” is not exactly like mountain that won’t move, but in reality, it’s the landscape that changing constantly.

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End of 2012 – De-Clutter The Mind

“Life is like a camera,
just focus on what’s important,
capture the good times,
and if things don’t work out,
just take another shot.”

New Year has almost arrive, and by the end of year, it is always good time for me, for de-clutter. Just like all previous end of year, it’s a time to shake off the cobwebs and clear the path for new beginnings, get rid of things that no longer have value to me. I don’t mean the material possessions, but mostly way of thought, habits, feelings, etc. It’s an excellent way for launching pad to embark on a new season, especially for personal growth.

You see, how much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack, feel the straps on your shoulders. Now, pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life. Feel the weight as that adds up. Fill it all into that backpack, people who has negative influences in your life, fill it also with memories that used to drain you, add it with habits that overwhelmed you, add the unrealistic ambitions or “fantasy goals” in your mind”, and add the “If Only” situations in your life. Now try to walk. It’s kind of hard, isn’t it?

I think, this is what we do to ourselves on a daily basis. We weigh ourselves down until we can’t even move. Now, I’m gonna set that backpack on fire. Let everything burn and imagine waking up tomorrow with nothing. It’s kind of exhilarating, isn’t it? Because, I’m sure that I don’t need to carry all that weight, I just want to set that bag down.

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Cultivating A Peaceful Mind

Peaceful Mind does not mean to be in a place,
Where there is no noise, trouble or hard work…
It means, to be in the midst of those things,
and still be calm in your heart..

It’s been a while I haven’t written. It’s not that I lose interest for writing, but since last month, it’s been quite exciting busy time. Stability routines at the office are mixed with some interesting events (work-related events, City events, and Indonesian community events) and completing the closed-out of engineering projects. And the thing is, I feel like life just “come together”. It’s the feeling that I’m happy with who I am and what I do, and being able to go to sleep feeling fulfilled.

And the thing that I’ve notice about myself for now, I’m finally on the phase on my life where I’m able to just feel a peaceful mind, a feeling rest, and free of worried, so to speak. Although I just realized that, writing during “hard times” are much more “flowing” rather than “peace” time, but yes, I’m enjoying these moments of inner calmness, and freedom from lot of obsessing thoughts.

This is really the way of my life that It should be… Just peaceful, calm, relaxing, simple, uncomplicated, stable, and faraway from worries. 🙂

Having Boundaries

To be honest, being far away from my home country, actually give me an easier time. I can have a lot of alone time, which makes me rethink often, everything that is important to me. I start to really think about myself and paying less attention to what those around me are saying. This doesn’t mean I’m being selfish, it just gets me focused on what I want in life.

Because the main different thing that I can notice is that, It’s honestly good to have clear boundaries between professional life & personal life outside of work, because there is clear boundaries between co-workers and friends. I think, it help me a lot to feel more peace, since what happenend in the office just stay in the office completely. Why we should discuss a stressful project outside of office anyway.

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That “Someday” is Today

No matter what you want in life,
you’ve got to take that first step..
Regardless how much metawork we do,
or how much we talk about what we want to accomplish,
in the end, it’s our actions that define whether we fail or succeed.
Take a step, even if it’s a small step..

I remember when I was teenager, that I used to say, “Someday I’ll become that person, someday I’ll get everything that I want, someday, and someday”. Even when I was in college, this “someday things” became part of me also. “Someday I will be rich, someday I’ll go looking for better job, someday I’ll travel the world, etc, etc”..

The truth is, this someday things are growth with me, that make so accustomed that there will be a someday in my life where everything will finally come together. I have to admit it feels good to write today in these new ground rules. Because these someday things are lies, lies, lies… It’s seems almost unfair that at such a young age we buy into these lies and get stuck forever in this fairy tale idea of life.

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Emotional Security From Within

This year have made me understand better than before,
how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way,
and that so many things that one goes worrying about,
are of no importance whatsoever…
I’ve been waiting for this phase in my life to begin,
a phase where I can just feel secure to be myself..

Here we go, the september almost over. This month, I’ve been focused to re-think about everything that is important to me, slightly quiet and enjoy the silence faraway from others, and paying less attention to what those around me are saying.

You see, within this year, I’ve tried hard to improve my sense for self-acceptance and be a friend to myself. To be honest, since few years ago, I used to be living on fear & wondering whether I’ll be able to achieve something big or not. Of course, when you do something out of fear, it will always result in failure.

I do remember the day when I felt a lot of doubt and insecure, I used to seek for the opinions of others before proceeding. It’s like I was ready to be lead by anyone who appears to know more than they do. At the time, I had no sense that I could control my path through life. I would simply wait for things to happen and then react to them.

But since I’ve became a friend to myself, and practicing the self acceptance, then I got those sense of purpose. The first step is to openly accept where you are right now, whether you feel good about it or not. Because, you won’t get any stronger until you accept where or who you are right now.

The main question is, “Do you want sympathy for creating what you don’t want, or do you want congratulations for creating what you do want?”

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26 Years Old and The Big Picture

Destiny is a pretty big concept..
Where you are in life, how you got there,
what would have happened if one thing or another had been different..
Well, It’s funny looking back at those days,
knowing now exactly what I am heading towards,
and what heading towards me..

Well, today I’m officially 26 years old, and wooooow, this is also my first official post on my new blog. A blog that using my own name as domain. It’s still hard to believe that I can reach this big milestone in my life so far. It’s indeed, my life is really going in a good direction now. I couldn’t be more thankful with everything that comes into me this year. I’ve got everything I’ve been dreamed of since I was kid this year.

To be honest, when I celebrate my 25th birthday last year, I’ve never thought that my life would be changed so much as it like today. I still remember that last year, I was asking myself regarding, “What makes a man who he is? Is it the worst things he’s ever done, or the best things he’s trying so hard to be?”. After I was being able to answer that question, I was ready to accept reality, and starting to begin to be a friend to myself.

But then, every big changes came this year. I’m finally able to take a massive step on my career. Today, at this 26th of age, I have more confident and become accustomed to learning to think bigger.

Because, after what happened this year, I realize now that I don’t want to wake up someday at 65 years of age, sighing over what I should have tried. I just want to do it, be willing to fail, and learn along the way. At least, I’ll give my best shot. At the end of the day, whether I choose to go with it, flow with it, resist it, change it, or hide from it, life will always goes on.


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The “What Next” Question

A wise man,
is one who after many years of learning,
still able to say “I don’t know”..
Because, life, all life, is about asking questions,
It’s not about knowing answers..

(~Allie Keys – Taken, The Series)

 You see, for me, life can be seen as a series of chapters – stepping stones, opportunities, branches splitting off into a million different directions, big and small decisions. These chapters may have obvious beginnings and ends, and sometimes those definitions are blurred. The key thing to keep in mind is that all segments flow together. Everything falls into place, whether we plan it that way or not.

With all chapters, there are underlying themes. There are questions that come and go with the passage of time. One of the questions that I could never shake was “What comes next?” No matter how far I ran in my life, it kept pace. Wherever I went, it’s like accompany me.

I remember when college graduation came and went, there it was again: “What comes next?” And this time, it wasn’t only my mind asking the question – it felt like the entire world was fixated with what my response would be.

It’s hard to think of it. It seems that I’ve done my part, you know. I did what I have to do. And, what to do next in life? This question is always asked by myself for these few weeks. Especially, when September is coming next, and I’ll celebrate my birthday, and it’s always the month and time where I reflect about my own life.

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I’m Working Overseas in Middle East

It’s like sometimes not knowing,
how crazy you doing something, is a good thing..
You’re just goofing around..
Until someone noticed it, shows up, and says, “Wow”..
And the rest of my life story, is unfolded little by little..

You know, to be honest, somehow I’m still thinking, all of these are “too good to be true”. Yes, surely there are times when I imagined this one before, but it’s just some fantasy or fairy tale that I actually never thouht to became reality. You can see those my previous posts are quite reflecting it.

I still remember, the first time when I want to actually make this happen, and being focus to achieve it. It was 3 months ago, during my Field Break time, I was alone at my room, and I was watching How I Met Your Mother with “Unfinished” episode. It made me look real hard about my lifelong dream and relate with what I’ve achieved on my life so far..

And, at the end of movie, Ted said that,
I know that successful person don’t just live in life. They change it, they shape it, they make their mark upon it, and mark it with amazing result. They never gave up on their dream..

But, you see, that’s not usually how it goes. I mean, usually, it isn’t a speeding bus. Most of the time, it’s just too difficult or too expensive, or too scary. It’s only once you’ve stopped, that you realize how hard it is to start again. So you force yourself not to want it. But it’s always there. And until you achieve it, it will always be…unfinished..

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Opportunity and Choice

Sometimes, opportunity knocks at the strangest times.
Well, I know, it’s not the time that matters,
but how I answer the door.
I mean, our life is defined by our own choice.
Our story may not have such a happy beginning,
but that doesn’t make you, who you are.
It is the rest of your story – who you choose to be…

You see, at every move in our life, we have to choose and proceed. We might like it or not. Life is nothing but a totality of conscious choices that we continuously make. Someone else does not choose for us in our life.

Sometimes we are left with no choice at all but to find ourselves at the crossroad of life, with two paths each beckoning and beguiling us. One is short, well kept, with flowery plants and bushes on both sides, so easy to negotiate, but ending up in a blank wall. The other is long, labyrinthine and bumpy, and difficult to negotiate, but ending up in a vast orchard of fruit-bearing trees and sweet-scented flowers.

For all I understand, where I am today is because of the choices I made in the past. But, Many times, I was at a dilemma just like, “To be, or not to be”, that is the question. It is easier to say this but, I know it isn’t so easy in practice, especially when those opportunities right in front of me.

There are no guarantees..

I don’t really know where a road will lead me until I take it. There are no guarantees. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad.

I mean, there are too many possible outcomes, which I really cannot control. The only thing I have power over is the decisions that I will make, and how I would act and react to different situations.

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The Lie to Ourselves, Stop It..!!

A man may become master of his destiny,
when he has power to influence his own mind..
If you aren’t doing it,
that means you don’t want it badly enough,
so stop kidding yourself..!!
Actions speak louder than words, definitely..

Are you…
…waiting to get the perfect job?
…waiting to perfect time to ask that cute girl?
…waiting to meet Miss Right?
…waiting to start living your life, on your own terms?
…waiting to an offering before you start the career you really want?
…waiting for someone, somewhere to tell you what’s important for you to do?
…waiting to give you permission to do what you want with your life?
…waiting for someone to take care of you?
…waiting for the great adventure finds you?
…waiting for the magic happens?
…waiting to start living, rather than just existing?


Look, there’s something that I need to get off my chest. I’ve been thinking about this for a while. And I’ve noticed that our habits are the most part that create our life. It’s our habit that are in charge of our life. Because, the things I do every day are pretty much what I did yesterday and perhaps what I’ll do tomorrow.

One of the things that separates us from “having the time we want” is that we constantly, blatantly, and unapologetically lie to ourselves about our scheduling, abilities, and our priorities. I don’t deny I do it myself. And it kills my time, slaughters my schedule, and smashes my plans to tiny little bits.

But in all seriousness, we do lie to ourselves. For example, when you say “I don’t have the time to …”, that’s almost certainly a lie. Since I can walked on this earth and observing other people, I know that nobody operates at 100% efficiency.

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