The Right Person Is..??

If true love is so important to everyone,
then why is that we have so many issues on finding it?
I know, we fear rejection, want attention,
crave affection, and dream of perfection..
But in the end, Life is what happens,
when you’re so busy making other plans…



True love is not easy, they’re hard work. It’s about compromise, growing together, etc, etc. But if it’s the right person, then it’s easy. Looking at that girl and knowing she’s all you really want out of life, that should be the easiest thing in the world, right?

I know the odds are, the love of my life isn’t gonna magically walk through that door. I’m the only one with the power to change my life. I’m the only one who can attract a woman to me. I cannot stand by idly waiting for a woman to come along and sweep me off my feet. It’s not her job to do so.

But, how do we know about “the right person”? Because, as far as I concerned, It’s not always easy to see someone’s true colors. Sometimes, we must look beneath the feminine spell to find that fragile ego. Ignore the sparkle of the jewel, bring the truth out of the shadows, to see the real beauty of her smile..

Besides that, true love doesn’t happen right away, it’s an ever-growing process. It’s like Engineering, It has phase for “developing”. There is Issued for Internal Review, Issued for Approval, Issued for Design, and Issued for Construction..

The Real Truths..

You see, we shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. On the other hand, if someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll also make an effort to be in it. It’s just stupid to insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth, because if they know your worth, they will create a space for you.

But, somehow, I don’t know what a privilege it is to grow old with someone, who doesn’t drive me “insane”, or doesn’t humiliate me beyond repair. But, the thing is, it’s about two people being true to each other, even when they are separated in distance. I mean, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

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The Lesson From Past Relationships

What we crave most in this world is connection..
Fate working its magic, and, that’s great.
But that’s not the way it really works..
It’s complicated, it’s messy..
It’s about horrible timing & fumbled opportunities..
And not being able to say, what you need to say,
when you need to say it..
At least, that’s the way it WAS for me..



Everyone has their own story & gone through something, including on romance part. You see, each relationship is a reflection of ourselves (whether good or bad). Subconsciously, it’s a reflection of our deepest insecurities and needs. And when I really take the time to reflect the good or bad times, clear all the baggage, it is a window into my soul.

As far as I understand, all successful relationships require some work. They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when both parties want to take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Yup, open communication & honesty is fundamentals.

When I look to my past, I can easily identify the pattern of problematic relationship. I think, they are common relationship problems that makes why many romantic partnerships do not work out. Here’s the thing that I can write for now, and also some lesson its moving-on.

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Best Quotes “How I Met Your Mother”


Man, when I have kids,
and I’ll tell them how I met their mother,
I’m gonna tell them everything, the whole damn story..
(~Ted)


Wow, this is my 100th post finally. I am still amazed at how far my personal page have been developed, which began with such humble expectations. To be honest, I’m writing here during my spare  alone time. Looking at back about posts that I’ve written, the more I realized how much my self has changed.

Usually, the tradition is “list 100 things about you”, but I have different opinion. I just want to write the quotes from my favorite Serial TV, where I grow up around them since three years ago. Those quotes are so related to me, and little bit also describe “things about me”. And, this quote from “How I Met Your Mother”, marks my 100th post. If you watched this Serial TV, you’ll know which scene from these quotes below.


About Love of My Life
Look, I know that odds are, the love of my life isn’t gonna magically walk through that door.. But, this seems as nice a spot as any to just, you know, sit and wait for a while, preparing myself at the same time..
(~Ted)

It just felt nice actually. Where we can sit together just the two of us, and have a good casual conversation, with no intention of hidden “agenda”.. (~Ted to Robin)

Okay, I’m gonna say something out loud that I’ve been doing a pretty good job of not saying out loud lately. I’ve seen two people’s in love and really connected, and what I know what they had, I want that.. I do… I keep waiting for it to happen, and waiting for it to happen, and…I guess I’m just, um… I’m tired of waiting.. And that is all I’m going to say on that subject.. (~Ted)

I know that you’re tired of waiting, and you may have to wait a little while more, but she’s on her way, Ted. And she’s getting here as fast as she can.. (~Stella advise Ted)

I took a long walk that night. I thought about how opening myself up to another person usually means opening myself up to going a little crazy. I thought about how much easier it was just to be alone… (~Robin)

When it comes to love, the best relationships are the ones that just come naturally. I think that’s how it’s supposed to be. Have natural fun, and easy, and simple or uncomplicated. Because at some level, with the right person it has just to be easy. Looking at that girl and knowing she’s all you really want out of life, that should be the easiest thing in the world… (~Ted)


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Jodoh? Apakah Itu?

Seiring bertambahnya usia, keinginan untuk bertemu pasangan jiwa makin lama makin menguat, dan mulailah aku meraba bagian hidup yang satu ini. Walaupun, aku sendiri belum tahu sama sekali tentang kapan, dengan siapa, dan di mana.

Seorang kakak mengirimkanku artikel sederhana ini (Jazakillah Uni, saya edit yak, he3).. Sungguh, benar-benar membuatku merenung tentang keadaan diriku sendiri. Akankah aku kelak mampu membangun keluarga SaMaWa seperti yang sering didengung-dengungkan?

Ingin rasanya saya bertanya pada teman-teman seusia yang baru saja menikah. Bagaimana mereka mampu mengambil keputusan terbesar dalam hidup tsb? Karena ingin menggenapkan separuh agama? Karena perasaan cinta pada seseorangkah? Karena sudah punya penghasilan tetapkah? Karena sudah punya rumahkah? Karena jiwa yang memang sudah dewasakah? Atau, mungkin karena sudah sangat merasa kesepian? Atau karena memang sudah jodoh?

Jodoh…Serasa ringan diucap, tapi rumit dalam realita. Apalagi jika sudah berbicara tentang kriteria calon idaman. Pada awalnya, kriteria calon hanya menjadi ‘bagian masalah’, namun kemudian justru menjadi inti permasalahan itu sendiri.

“Met, banyak orang merintih, menghiba dalam doa, dan menuntut kemurahan Allah. Namun prestasi terbaik mereka hanya sebatas menuntut, tidak tampak bukti kesungguhan untuk menjemput kehidupan rumah tangga.”

“Kehidupan berkeluarga adalah arena perjuangan, penuh liku dan ujian, dibutuhkan napas kesabaran panjang, kadang kegetiran mampir susul-menyusul. Jangan hanya siap menjadi raja atau ratu, tapi tidak pernah menyiapkan diri untuk berjuang membina keluarga.” (Begitu nasehat yang ada di artikel tsb)

Kehidupan keluarga tidak berbeda dengan kehidupan individu, hanya dalam soal ujian dan beban jauh lebih berat. “Met, jika kamu sekarang masih single, lalu dibuai penyakit malas, mengeluh, nyantai, trus, keluarga seperti apa yang akan kamu bangun kelak?” Astaghfirullah, benar-benar tertusuk dalam rasanya hati ini disuguhi pertanyaan itu.

“Ketika sifat kedewasaan telah menjadi jiwa, jodoh itu akan datang tanpa harus dirintihkan. Kala itu hati seseorang telah bulat utuh, siap menerima realita kehidupan rumah tangga, manis atau getirnya, dengan lapang dada..”

Jangan lagi bertanya, “Mana jodohku?” Namun bertanyalah, “Sudah dewasakah aku?”

Untuk sekarang, aku menjawab belum. Masih banyak hal yang perlu diperbaiki. Masih perlu banyak ikhtiar yang harus gigih ku lakukan untuk berjuang mempersiapkan diri, memperbaiki hati, dan menggapai mimpi…” Ya Allah, kuatkan aku..

Types of Women I Can’t Stand

First of all, it’s not exactly black & white. Keep in mind that many women may show some traits from more than one category listed below and still be great girlfriend material. After all, it’s not exactly news that women tend to be more emotional than men.

Here is the the personality types of woman that I can’t stand :


Agony “Aunt”
There are some women who constantly feel they are an ‘advisory person’. They feel it is their business to hear out the whines of everyone and suggest suitable solutions. They’re so deeply involved in this “part-time” job that they inadvertently sound like they are advising you as well. Nobody wants to date a mom, you know..


Miss “Sharp” Mouth
Any conversation will end-up with two or three words that “too mean”. Her manner is really frustrating. She isn’t concerned at all if they hurt you or anybody else. If you manage to make it through one hour of listening to her manner on talk, mean you can survive on anything.


Miss Needy / Miss Insecure
This woman seems great at the start, because she’s very nice. Then, soon, she’s calling you 10 times a day, asking to see “where the relationship is going,” or she’ll ask you if you still love her about a thousand times. She’s clingy, needy and compulsively agonizes that she thinks that you’re going to leave her at any moment for another girl.

Let’s face it: If you can’t have a little independence in relationship, it’s never going to last. Unless, of course, you’re also needy.


Drama Queen
In particular, her hobby is to dramatize about absolutely everything. Small things are easily been blown out of proportion. She talks like everything is “tragedy”. If you advise her, then she felt been judged. If you just silence, she thought you didn’t care. During her “drama movies”, you can see that her sense of logic is out of whack. Unless you’re into lots of drama and screaming.


Miss Elusive
She is usually one of the “walking wounded” — someone who has been hurt in past relationships and so subconsciously sabotages new relationships in the present. Your association with her will be one of utter frustration, she shows great interest in you, but very quickly runs away, then repeats this cycle over and over again.


Miss Desperate
Maybe because she felt really lonely. So, Miss Desperate wants to have boyfriend right now. She doesn’t care who the guy is, or what he does, didn’t need to go for “knowing each other” phase, as long as she can got boyfriend right now. It can be felt really creepy pretty fast.


Miss “Princess”
The Princess is high maintenance girl. She is entirely focused on herself. She needs to be the constant center of attention. She is a self-serving narcissist who was raised as “daddy’s little girl,” and expects the same from you. She will constantly keep you busy taking care of her every need. And Princess absolutely has no idea that real life consists of paying bills and cleaning toilets.


Miss Controlling
She is a subtly nasty one who will wind up directing every phase of your life. She will tell you what to wear, where to go, who to talk to, what friends you can have, what you can eat — everything. And if you try to stand up for yourself, she will cry, scream, pout, or use any other deceptive female “tactic” until you give in and succumb to her demands.


Miss Worker Bee
If you are buzzing nineteen to a dozen only about the presentations you have to make for the boss, deadlines, colleagues, HR head and the office janitor – it’s obvious you have nothing else to talk about. A man may want to know about your interests, your views on him, and more, but you prefer to hide behind ‘work’ all the time. If you want a man, any man actually, please get a life first.

“That” Subject..

 

When you’ve already grown-up,
have graduated from college & have a stable job,
then, things such as love, serious relationship, and (even) marriage,
slowly starting to appear on the surface that hard to be ignored..


You know, When you’re single, and your friends or people that closed on your life start to get married, every wedding invitation presents a strange moment of self-evaluation. What it’s really asking is, “Where do you see yourself..??” The thing is, at this age, love is not supposed for just another “trial & error”, it just has to be really, really “right”, I mean, “the one”. And, to get that, it’s hard, honestly.. 🙂

Well, I know relationships aren’t easy, they’re “hard work”. It’s about compromise, growing together, and other crap list continued. But if it’s the right person, then it’s gonna be just easy. Looking at her and knowing she’s all I really want out of life, that should be the easiest thing in the world. Because, the best relationships are the ones that just come naturally. Have natural fun, easy, and simple, or uncomplicated. And, if it’s not like that, then it’s just not meant to be..

Because, if it’s too complicated, maybe it means that we don’t connect on fundamental levels. Then, of course there will be “break-up” & “drama” phase. And funny thing about break-up, there is no good way. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to do the right thing for break-up, there is always one side that have to face & deal with “humiliation”..

The point is, I’ve felt enough for “trial & error” phase. Because, I think I don’t want to just wasting my time, my energy, and of course my heart, to a girl that literally will not meant to be with me. What is the point of climbing a ladder if it’s leaning against “the wrong wall”, right..??

I know that odds are, She’s not gonna magically walk through that door, but this seems as nice a spot as any to just, sit and wait for a while, preparing myself on any side. Right now, I don’t know who she is, or, where or when We will meet. But, I think for the most part in my life, ultimately, I will only see what I want to see, when I’m ready to see it. And that’s all I’m gonna say to this very own subject… 🙂

Best Romantic Movie Quotes

Romantic of Love

For me, I like to watch movies for many reasons, but one is because of some great movie quotes. Once you hear something incredible in a movie, it becomes part of you and you never forget it. It’s recalled years later and makes the movie stand still in time.

So what I have done for you is complied my favorite movie quotes, and for this post is specially from romantic comedies movies, and my explanation for why they are all so wonderful.

1. Movie : “Rumor Has It”

The Quote:

I’m not going to stand here and tell you I can’t live without you, because I can…
I just don’t want to.”
– Sarah to Jeff

I feel this is one of the most raw and romantic quotes there is. Sarah is telling Jeff that she loves him so much that she doesn’t want anyone else, not then not ever. It is love in its simplest form in my opinion. Even though it was wrote into a script, it still has meaning to everyday people like you and me. Not everyone can experience that in their lifetime. But, hopefully I will, someday.. 🙂

2. Movie : “Sleepless in Seattle”

The Quote:

“It was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together. And, I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home, only to no home I’d ever known. I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like… magic..”

Again, the romance and ideals behind this touch one’s heart, awaking the desires that we want to have that “one true love” and remind us that there is hope out there for us to find that which we do desire and deserve. A one, deep, “true” love, and that neither time nor distance could keep the lovers apart.

3. Movie : “Runaway Bride”

The Quote:

“Look, I guarantee there’ll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you’re the only one for me…”

We all want to have that, the happily-ever-after that we feel we deserve. But the truth behind storybook romances is laid out in this quote. It gives us pause to think about how we will go through life – not only the joys, but the heartaches that will surely happen as well. And it is best kept in mind there will be hard times as we consider who we desire to spend the rest of our life with.

4. Movie : “The Prestige”

The Quote:

“I want… I want you to be honest with me. No tricks, no lies, no secrets.”

This movie quote touches my heart because this describes exactly what I want in a relationship. I want complete honesty. I don’t understand how you can love someone and not be honest with him or her, in fact I think it’s impossible..

5. Movie : “The Notebook”

The Quote:

“I am no one special, just a common man with common thoughts. I’ve led a common life, there are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect, I’ve succeeded as gloriously as anyone who ever lived. I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul and for me… that has always been enough.”

It’s so pure and so honest, no manipulation, not even a little…!!! This is how I want to be remembered, not as a common man of course, but for who I am. I too am no one special, I am just a common man living a common life. How do you want to be remembered after you leave this life?

6. Movie : “When Harry Met Sally”

The Quote:

“I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts… I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes.. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible…”

When Harry finds himself needing to explain why he loves Sally, he comes out with the most honest explanation of love I’ve ever heard. The little things are what makes love stick, not the big events, not the big mannerisms, but the things that linger after those big things fade. To her, his decision maybe seems irrational, the actions of a lonely man. But, Irrationality happens sometimes in love, especially when you feel you’re in danger of losing that love. This line makes me feel all warm inside no matter how many times I’ve seen it.

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I know We don’t live in a movie; this is the real world. But, for various reasons, each of these quotes have spoken volumes to me over the years, given me pause to think as I go through my own daily routines as well as daydreams. Contemplating the depth and value of love within my life..

Alasan Memilih..

choose one
Artikel yang bener2 bikin awak ngakak pas pertama kali membacanya.
Tentu saja awak dapat dari rileks.comlabs.itb.ac.id (he3…)
Ya, cukup dibaca buat ketawa2 aja..hahaha…

Bagi para wanita, di dalam dunia kencan terdapat banyak pilihan,
misalnya di sebuah cafe, apakah harus
memilih cowo keren charming bersenyum indah yang melirik nakal,
atau laki-laki dingin (cool maksudnya) di ujung sana
yang sedang sibuk mengetik di laptopnya?

Well. . .ada beberapa alasan mengapa saya
merasa kalian (para wanita) sebenarnya lebih baik
memilih yang ke dua (sebut saja si cupu),
daripada yang pertama (sebut saja si gaol)..

Alasannya antara lain adalah :

1.Terlihat kemungkinan yang jelas si gaol mau apa dari kalian,
yaa… kecuali niat kalian “itu-itu” aja ya silahkan,
o iya..kemungkinannya kecil lho ada co cupu yang gak nelfon
kalian kalau mreka dah janji, bagi si cupu mungkin kesempatan “langka”,
tapi buat kalian kan itu menguntungkan.

2.Si cupu sangat berguna di dunia berteknologi tinggi ini,
tidakkah menyenangkan memiliki seseorang yang bisa mengurus laptopmu, aplikasinya, dan semua hal yang berhubungan dengan
kabel yang menancap di dinding?
Pasangan merangkap teknisi pribadi,haha..

3.Romantis, adalah salah satu yang mereka berikan,
oke lah ide romantis mereka mungkin meng-edit web page
untukmu atau terkesan dunia maya banget,
but hey..paling gak itu lebih awet dari bunga,
trus kamu bisa nunjukin hasilnya ke teman-teman..hehe..

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MY MOVIE COLLECTION – How I Met Your Mother

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Film serial ini adalah salah satu koleksi awak yang sangat berharga..
Nonton berulang-ulang pun, tetep awak ketawa, gak pernah kerasa garing.
Cocok bangetlah jadi selingan di tengah pusingnya kepala awak nyari2 kerja, ha3..

Sebenarnya, ni serial idenya sederhana banget kok.
Tapi, sangat-sangat bermakna… Deep lah maknanya.
Ya, awak memang suka kesederhanaan yang bermakna (cieee..).

Banyak sisi-sisi kehidupan sehari-hari yang ditampilkan di sini.
Habis nonton, pikiran awak jadi banyak terbuka..
Mengandung “message” yang bagus lah pokok-e.

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Mencintai semampuku

heartallah

Sebuah doa yang sangat menyentuh..
Pertama kali membacanya, air mata awak menetes tak terasa..
Berkali-kali pun awak baca setelah itu, selalu memberi kesejukan bagi hati..

Tuhanku,
Aku masih ingat, saat pertama dulu aku belajar mencintaiMu…
Lembar demi lembar kitab kupelajari…
Untai demi untai kata para ustadz kuresapi…
Tentang cinta para nabi,
Tentang kasih para sahabat,
Tentang mahabbah para sufi,
Tentang kerinduan para syuhada..


Tapi Rabbii,
Berbilang detik, menit, jam, hari, pekan, bulan dan kemudian tahun berlalu…
Aku sangat jauh dari mencintaiMu dengan cinta yang paling utama itu, Ya Rabb..


Allahu Rahiim, Ilaahi Rabbii,
Perkenankanlah aku mencintaiMu Sebisaku
Dengan segala kelemahanku

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