When we pursue our dreams in life,
at some point we will inevitably encounter resistance,
stumble upon challenges we don’t want to deal with.
However, happiness is not the absence of problems,
but the ability to deal with them,
because nothing is absolutely perfect, isn’t it?
This month, I became familiar with little thing called “resistance” in my daily job life. It’s kind of like temperamental toddler in my head, screaming & repeating, “I don’t wanna! I don’t wanna!”. It happens when I know I should do something, and I know I can do it, and yet, I just don’t wanna. And to make it worse, I can’t also saying “not to do it” just like that, even when I kept thinking, I wasn’t supposed to do it.
And yes, this kind of feeling bring back the old memories of my early career days working in my country. I know, in today’s busy workplace, this feeling of resistance can be easily sucked and sap our mental energy.
To be honest, I never thought that I’ll experience again this feeling when I’m working overseas. I don’t know, maybe It wasn’t life that was the problem, maybe it was my unrealistic expectations were clashing with reality. I had created a picture in my head of how life should be and when unexpected problems arise, I didn’t cope.
Focus on Long-Term, Weighing It Against The Reward
Everyone wants a job they love. We all want to wake up excited to go to work, spend our days accomplishing goals we’re proud of, and come home feeling pleasantly fulfilled. Oh, and somewhere in there, we’d like a paycheck that provides us with a comfortable lifestyle and may one day put our kids through college. That’s the dream anyway.
The thing is, there’s a natural give and take in career life. Usually, whenever something is gained, something else is lost. A wise choices, we must weigh the risks against the potential rewards. Make predictions and assumptions, and remember that one is not better than the other, they simply have different consequences, and, at times, great leaps of faith.
And I’m talking about faith in myself. So, I think, I need to get my mind back in check. It’s like that old trick, mind over matter, lift my head, and look out at the horizon once in a while. Because, when we’re busy looking down, that’s when things are missed, aren’t we?
I’m aware, growth of any kind requires confronting resistance, it’s all part of the process. Don’t get me wrong. I’m happy now, and I really can’t ask for too much more in my career life. But, sometimes, it’s really annoying to put up with those irritations and arguments. So, to get my mind easing up to the feeling of resistance, it’s a good way to see on the long term and the big picture.
When I look at my career life, I know I’ve achieved, what I once considered, an impossible dream. Not a lot of people from my country have been blessed to become expatriate professional engineer at my age. After years of hard work pursuing this big success, I’m grateful that fantasy I’ve been harboring for so long, become a reality. And I know very well, I don’t want to just stop at this point.
So, I force myself to look at the whole picture and how my career impacts other areas of life. It’s not just about the money, or the title, or the lifestyle. It’s about ALL of these things and what they mean as a whole—to me, and of course my future family.
The thing is, when I look at “big picture perspective” of the future, I can honestly say that this feeling of resistance is only exist on my mind, which turned it into something insurmountable. When I evaluate my options realistically, weighted against a timeline of next 5 – 10 years, my gut tells me that this resistance, is really just a small price to pay. So, I just need to be ready to hustle and adapt.
Every Little Struggle is A Step Forward, Be Patience
In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing comfort for a while. It could give me a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean accepting ridicule from my peers, and swallowing my pride. Everything else is a test of my determination, of how much I really want it.
Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and I may get a thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again. I realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth it.
True strength comes when I have something to complain about, but I prefer to smile and appreciate my life instead. There’s nothing wrong with it, though. That’s the cycle of life. That’s evolution in process. It’s a long-term journey. So, I don’t think it’s the time to go looking for something better. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it, right?
“The reason for “time” exist is so that everything doesn’t have to happen at once in the same time. That’s why, the principle part of faith is patience. A faithful mind requires a patient will. I know things will not always seem to move fast enough in life, but they are usually moving as fast as they should be…