Once in awhile,
Right in the middle of an ordinary life,
Love gives us a fairy tale…
What I’m feeling, I think, is joy…
I’ve felt that blinkered rush of happiness.
This might be one of those rare events that lasts,
one that’ll be remembered as months & years wind & ravel.
One of those sweet, significant moments,
that leaves a footprint in our mind…
It’s like I just wake up in the mornings,
and feel like I’ve just had the most incredible dream.
I’ve just dreamt my life…
The thing is, a photograph couldn’t ever tell its story.
It’s like something you have to live to understand.
Where things shift into focus for a moment,
and everything just makes sense….
Well, I know it’s like 2 months late post. But, like I said, I’ll make the post of our wedding story gradually, little by little. Because, sometimes to really being able to describe the big moment of our life with a carefully chosen words are still not enough to picturing those moments. It’s like something you have to experience it in order to understand it.
So, after Wedding Vows day, there will be wedding ceremony which will be held for 2 days. It’s a common thing in our culture, Minangkabau culture in West Sumatera, Indonesia. The first day, the ceremony will be mainly to be held at my parent’s house.
Going to My Wife’s House at Night After Wedding Vows
But, before wedding ceremony begin in the next day after wedding vows day, during at night, my family & relatives & our clan will take and accompany me to my wife’s parent’s house first. People from my clan would also bring the “rebana” (tambourine) group with me. (Note : “Rebana” / tambourine is one of classic music instrument used in Minangkabau culture).
To be short, that night, when we arrived at my wife parent’s house, my wife family & relatives & their clan were welcomed us, and then after gathering and what not, Rebana group will play their music instrument as part of entertainment and also as part of showing respect to my wife parents & their relatives & their clan.
The value is that to acknowledge that my family have given me a blessing to move and live with the new family (my wife family) in a good will, and my wife family also welcoming me to be part of their family.
Wedding Ceremony at My Parent’s House
Then, in the morning, my wife family & relatives & their clan will bring & accompany me back to my parent’s house, where the first wedding ceremony will be held. This time, I’ve already official to be called Bride and Groom (in Minangkabau language, it’s called Anak Daro & Marakpulai).
Me and my wife was wearing wedding gown and its sets of accessories, which also reflect the Minangkabau culture. My wife was wearing “suntiang” on her head, and I was wearing “baju gadang basiba, sarawa guntiang ampek” with one kris (ceremonial knife) . This wedding custome, of course, only exist in the Minangkabau’s land.
After we arrived at my parent’s house, we both will sit in wedding stage / wedding stillage which have been designed in a way that reflect the Minangkabau culture, and so the party begin.
People from my neighborhood, my parent’s friends, my friends, my brother’s wife & their relatives, and all other people who have been invited, will come to give us their blessing and congratulated us. It’s one of the day when me and my wife will be treated like “King and Queen” for one day. Hehehehe….
Of course, before the wedding ceremony being held at that day, the preparation have been done long way back. And I’m really grateful to my parents that have managed all preparations, and also the help unconditionally from my relatives & my clan. It’s one of the day when you realize the good of humanity, the sense of caring for each other, and willing to help you unconditionally. It’s not coincidence that most people said that wedding day is the blissful day, indeed.
Well, so that’s the first day. I’ll continue to write for wedding ceremony on second day. Like I said, It felt like I just wake up in the mornings, and feel like I’ve just had the most incredible dream. I’ve just dreamt my life…
Well my dear, now we feel no rain for each of us will be a shelter to the other. Now we feel no cold for each of us will be warmth to the other. Now there is no loneliness for each of us will be a companion to the other. We are two bodies but there is one life before us and one home. When evening falls I’ll look up and there you will be, I’ll take your hand, you’ll take mine and we’ll turn together. To look at the road we travelled to reach this the hour of our happiness. It stretches behind us, even as the future lies ahead. A long and winding road whose every turning, means discovery. Old hopes, new laughter, shared fears…
The adventure has just begun…