Ramadan Kareem in Abu Dhabi

No life ever grows great by itself,
Until it is devoted, focused and closely controlled.
Also no life is ever happy until,
it is lived for the glory of Allah.
May Allah bless all of us..
May the spirit of Ramadan ,
enlighten the world and show us,
the way to peace and harmony..
(~Ramadan kareem)..



Well, this is my first time experience for the holy month of ramadan, to do fasting (puasa) in overseas. The thing is, since I’ve arrived in this city (Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates), I know I felt amazed with the way of life of the people in here.

Then, when Ramadan month was coming, I become more amazed. Because, all activities during Ramadan are always related with worship to God (Allah SWT). Not surprise enough for middle east country, that ruled by Islam religion. But, when I’ve experieced for the first time, It makes me wondering in a good way, that make me really thankful for experienced Ramadan in this good city.

In this part of the world, the phrase used to greet during Ramadan, is “Ramadan Kareem”, meaning ‘Ramadan is generous’. Well, Ramadan is a time for giving. People give to the poor, and help out their fellow man. Charity tents are erected for those who wish to donate to the needy, and charity desks abound.

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I’m Working Overseas in Middle East

It’s like sometimes not knowing,
how crazy you doing something, is a good thing..
You’re just goofing around..
Until someone noticed it, shows up, and says, “Wow”..
And the rest of my life story, is unfolded little by little..



You know, to be honest, somehow I’m still thinking, all of these are “too good to be true”. Yes, surely there are times when I imagined this one before, but it’s just some fantasy or fairy tale that I actually never thouht to became reality. You can see those my previous posts are quite reflecting it.

I still remember, the first time when I want to actually make this happen, and being focus to achieve it. It was 3 months ago, during my Field Break time, I was alone at my room, and I was watching How I Met Your Mother with “Unfinished” episode. It made me look real hard about my lifelong dream and relate with what I’ve achieved on my life so far..

And, at the end of movie, Ted said that,
I know that successful person don’t just live in life. They change it, they shape it, they make their mark upon it, and mark it with amazing result. They never gave up on their dream..

But, you see, that’s not usually how it goes. I mean, usually, it isn’t a speeding bus. Most of the time, it’s just too difficult or too expensive, or too scary. It’s only once you’ve stopped, that you realize how hard it is to start again. So you force yourself not to want it. But it’s always there. And until you achieve it, it will always be…unfinished..

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Opportunity and Choice

Sometimes, opportunity knocks at the strangest times.
Well, I know, it’s not the time that matters,
but how I answer the door.
I mean, our life is defined by our own choice.
Our story may not have such a happy beginning,
but that doesn’t make you, who you are.
It is the rest of your story – who you choose to be…



You see, at every move in our life, we have to choose and proceed. We might like it or not. Life is nothing but a totality of conscious choices that we continuously make. Someone else does not choose for us in our life.

Sometimes we are left with no choice at all but to find ourselves at the crossroad of life, with two paths each beckoning and beguiling us. One is short, well kept, with flowery plants and bushes on both sides, so easy to negotiate, but ending up in a blank wall. The other is long, labyrinthine and bumpy, and difficult to negotiate, but ending up in a vast orchard of fruit-bearing trees and sweet-scented flowers.

For all I understand, where I am today is because of the choices I made in the past. But, Many times, I was at a dilemma just like, “To be, or not to be”, that is the question. It is easier to say this but, I know it isn’t so easy in practice, especially when those opportunities right in front of me.

There are no guarantees..

I don’t really know where a road will lead me until I take it. There are no guarantees. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad.

I mean, there are too many possible outcomes, which I really cannot control. The only thing I have power over is the decisions that I will make, and how I would act and react to different situations.

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The Lie to Ourselves, Stop It..!!

A man may become master of his destiny,
when he has power to influence his own mind..
If you aren’t doing it,
that means you don’t want it badly enough,
so stop kidding yourself..!!
Actions speak louder than words, definitely..

Are you…
…waiting to get the perfect job?
…waiting to perfect time to ask that cute girl?
…waiting to meet Miss Right?
…waiting to start living your life, on your own terms?
…waiting to an offering before you start the career you really want?
…waiting for someone, somewhere to tell you what’s important for you to do?
…waiting to give you permission to do what you want with your life?
…waiting for someone to take care of you?
…waiting for the great adventure finds you?
…waiting for the magic happens?
…waiting to start living, rather than just existing?

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR..??

Look, there’s something that I need to get off my chest. I’ve been thinking about this for a while. And I’ve noticed that our habits are the most part that create our life. It’s our habit that are in charge of our life. Because, the things I do every day are pretty much what I did yesterday and perhaps what I’ll do tomorrow.

One of the things that separates us from “having the time we want” is that we constantly, blatantly, and unapologetically lie to ourselves about our scheduling, abilities, and our priorities. I don’t deny I do it myself. And it kills my time, slaughters my schedule, and smashes my plans to tiny little bits.

But in all seriousness, we do lie to ourselves. For example, when you say “I don’t have the time to …”, that’s almost certainly a lie. Since I can walked on this earth and observing other people, I know that nobody operates at 100% efficiency.

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Goo Goo Dolls – Feel The Silence

In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take,
Relationships we were afraid to have,
and decision we waited too long to make..
As the saying goes, silence is often the loudest cry…

 

Well, I used to hear this song during late at night. It has so much meaning and depth. Sometimesn, It just feels like this song’s written for me. I know it isn’t, but having it feel that way is what music’s supposed to do to you, right?

The first time I heard this song it hit me like brick wall. It’s the kind of song that make me thinking about life in general. This song makes me feel like I’m apart of something a lot bigger than myself and my own problems.

I think this song is about dealing with someone who he really care about. He wants to help this person and become part of her world. She may be struggling with something. Maybe her life is hard, or she’s going through a hard time.

Even though he thinks he may know a great deal about her, he can’t help her. He only know that something is wrong, yet he can’t reach her. He feels like she hasn’t told him everything, that there is so much more to her life that she hasnt’ shared with him yet (positive or negative things).

And he’s trying so hard to let her trust him. But, she just won’t completely let her guard down for some reason. And no matter how much he would like to help, she can’t seem to let him in.

And after a while of being persistent, he come to realize that she will tellhim in her own time when she is ready … Because, sometimes what a person needs most is a hand to hold and a heart to understand, right? It’s really quite sad, but true. It happens…

Yup, hope you enjoy the song…

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The Harsh Truth of Career

It might not be today, it might not be tomorrow.
Sometimes, it’s hard to hear these things
but, in the end, they make you stronger.
I might not even make it myself,
but I sure as hell ain’t leaving without putting up a fight..


As you see, career means a long term path of what we do that have directions & goals. And the thing is, just like everything else in life, there also some harsh truth that we need to face regarding our career. So, here is some facts that based-on my experience on real world… 🙂

Starts at the bottom

Almost everyone starts at the bottom. Regardless of what you think you deserve, you probably will to. Get over it, and just get started. And the thing is, it’s not enough to be good at what you do. Talent and skill will only take you so far. It’s like video game, more problems solved, the more experience gained, and the more character growth.

Job Hopper Fact

If you find yourself job-hopping, moving from one career to other different career in a short time, and still, nothing ever satisfies you for any period of time, it’s time to look at yourself. Most likely, you’re part of the problem.

Professional growth requires discomfort

Embrace it don’t fight it. There is no learning in the comfort zone. Achieving long-term career goals requires sustained effort and deliberate action. It’s no accident or coincidence. It’s a process that takes time. Sure, it won’t be fun at times, but nothing is. Do you really want to stay where you are and look back at your life in the future and regret not having taken the steps to go after it?

Your career is all about YOU

If you’re unhappy with your career, it’s up to you to change it. Sticking around because you’re afraid will only dig you deeper into the rut. No one else controls your situation. No one else responsible. Stop asking for everyone’s opinion about what you should do. Again, it is all about YOU.

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Be Myself..

And here I am,
right here in the place where I belong,
it’s a life with a beating of young heart
..

Saya masih ingat “kesan” yang muncul ketika pertama kali mendengar puisi ini. Waktu itu saya baru masuk kuliah & baru resmi berubah status menjadi mahasiswa. Sepertinya baru kemaren, namun ketika dibaca lagi, segala motivasi, harapan, & idealisme dari dalam diri itu masih membekas kuat.


MENJADI KARANG, meski tidak mudah.
Sebab ia akan menahan sengat binar mentari yang garang.
Sebab ia akan kukuh halangi deru ombak yang  menerpa tanpa kenal lelah.
Sebab ia akan menahan hempas badai yang datang menggerus terus-menerus dan coba melemahkan keteguhannya.
Sebab ia akan kokohkan diri agar tak mudah hancur dan terbawa arus.

MENJADI POHON yang tinggi menjulang, meski itu tidak mudah.
Sebab ia akan tatap tegar bara mentari yang terus menyala setiap siangnya.
Sebab ia akan meliuk halangi angin yang bertiup kasar.
Sebab ia akan terus menjejak bumi hadapi gemuruh sang petir.
Sebab ia akan hujamkan akar yang kuat untuk menopang.
Sebab ia akan menahan gempita hujan yang coba merubuhkan.
Sebab ia akan memberikan buah yang manis dan mengenyangkan.
Sebab ia akan berikan tempat bernaung bagi yang singgah di dahannya.
Sebab ia akan berikan tempat berlindung dengan rindang daun-daunnya.

MENJADI ELANG , dengan segala kejantanannya, meski itu juga tidak mudah.
Sebab ia harus melayang tinggi menembus birunya langit.
Sebab ia harus melanglang buana untuk mengenal medannya.
Sebab ia harus melawan angin yang menerpa dari segala penjuru.
Sebab ia harus mengangkasa jauh tanpa takut jatuh.
Sebab ia harus kembali ke sarang dengan makanan di paruhnya.
Sebab ia harus menukik tajam mencengkeram mangsa.
Sebab ia harus menjelajah cakrawala dengan kepak sayap yang membentang gagah.

MENJADI MELATI, meski tampak tak bermakna.
Sebab ia akan tebar harum wewangian tanpa meminta balasan.
Sebab ia tak takut hadapi angin dengan mungil tubuhnya.
Sebab ia tak ragu hadapi hujan yang membuatnya basah.
Sebab ia tak pernah iri melihat mawar yang merekah segar.
Sebab ia tak pernah malu pada bunga matahari yang menjulang tinggi.
Sebab ia tak pernah rendah diri pada anggrek yang anggun.
Sebab ia tak pernah dengki pada tulip yang berwarna-warni.
Sebab ia tak gentar layu karena pahami hakikat hidupnya.

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When The Storm Came..

Often, what’s going on in this mind,
is much more compelling, than what’s going on outside..
Maybe life is just a quick succession of busy nothings..
Or, maybe the state of our life is nothing more
than a reflection of our state of mind..


Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been completely swamped by work, especially due to Mechanical Completion of this project is on the verge of schedule, while still lot of things shall be done on time. It’s easy to feel panic during this period. Not consistently, but when it comes, it’s been a scary feeling.

I felt that I’m constantly on auto-pilot, working myself to the bone, and falling to overwhelming stress and pressure. I’ve noticed that I get overwhelmed and upset much more easily when I’m feeling tired or a bit grotty. I’m guessing this isn’t just me. I think most of us find that even little things can get blown out of proportion when we’re already run down.

And so I’ve been really focusing for the last couple of days on ways to be calmer, digging myself out, and writing this, is part of it. I know, sometimes, I’ve just got to hang on to something and let the storm run its course. Ultimately, it’s up to me to clear my own thought, as the saying goes that “our thoughts create our reality”.


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The Right Person Is..??

If true love is so important to everyone,
then why is that we have so many issues on finding it?
I know, we fear rejection, want attention,
crave affection, and dream of perfection..
But in the end, Life is what happens,
when you’re so busy making other plans…



True love is not easy, they’re hard work. It’s about compromise, growing together, etc, etc. But if it’s the right person, then it’s easy. Looking at that girl and knowing she’s all you really want out of life, that should be the easiest thing in the world, right?

I know the odds are, the love of my life isn’t gonna magically walk through that door. I’m the only one with the power to change my life. I’m the only one who can attract a woman to me. I cannot stand by idly waiting for a woman to come along and sweep me off my feet. It’s not her job to do so.

But, how do we know about “the right person”? Because, as far as I concerned, It’s not always easy to see someone’s true colors. Sometimes, we must look beneath the feminine spell to find that fragile ego. Ignore the sparkle of the jewel, bring the truth out of the shadows, to see the real beauty of her smile..

Besides that, true love doesn’t happen right away, it’s an ever-growing process. It’s like Engineering, It has phase for “developing”. There is Issued for Internal Review, Issued for Approval, Issued for Design, and Issued for Construction..

The Real Truths..

You see, we shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. On the other hand, if someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll also make an effort to be in it. It’s just stupid to insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth, because if they know your worth, they will create a space for you.

But, somehow, I don’t know what a privilege it is to grow old with someone, who doesn’t drive me “insane”, or doesn’t humiliate me beyond repair. But, the thing is, it’s about two people being true to each other, even when they are separated in distance. I mean, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

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Permanent & Grade Promotion

There are different kinds of journeys in life.
For some, you’ll have a clear destination in mind.
For others, you’ll wander until the right road appears.
Even if you know precisely where you want to end up,
the process of veering off-track with intention and curiosity,
that will reassure that your path is right…



Time is flying fast, don’t you think? It has been a year now, since the day I’ve arrived & join this company. After join in a company in a year, the good thing I expect is all about grade promotion & permanent offering.

You see, we all want to be recognized for our capabilities. So we work hard, learning all we can, and showcasing what we’ve got. The sound from our boss, such as “you have so much potential” is indeed, alluring music. But, the main point is, Sometimes, actions speak louder than words.

If we’re really that good, the offering will just come eventually. So, when I’ve been offered for permanent position & grade promotion, it reflect a recognition about my effort & what I’ve done.

You see, a promotion is like a deal, a business transaction, so I’m treating it as one. The higher grade, means higher salary, but also more contribution & more responsibility. It’s up to me to take control of my own career. And, this step is part of  “step by step plan”, in the big picture of my life.


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