Busy..?? Really..??

“Being busy does not always mean real work.
The object of all work is production or accomplishment…”

~ Thomas Alva Edison


Last week I had a very full schedule. Meetings, events, analysis reports, engineering projects, etc. I felt sooo busy. Until, My Boss encourage me with simple question. He simply asked me : “Armet, When was the last time you heard a successful person regard to themselves as “busy”?!” Wow, this question really make me realize lot of things..

Do you remember the last time you asked someone how work was? How about life in general? What was their response? The unanimous answer: “busy”..!! The response is almost programmed. No need to think. And then they look at me proudly, as if I should be impressed. Well, I can’t say that I am.

I’ve noticed that We’ve talked of being busy for so long that we’ve forgotten that being busy was never the goal. We are not on this earth to be busy. We are here to contribute, build relationships, experience life, go places, create things, help others, or whatever else you decide. But I have a feeling that none of us feel we are here simply to be busy. Why are We thinking that busy is good, no matter what we’re busy with?

I’m sure that being busy is not the way we should measure our worth. I do not believe being busy is a worthy goal for any of us. I think that felt busy is simply a state of mind. And, the fundamental difference between busy and doing a lot is in the attitude. Whenever someone tells you they’re busy, there’s negativity in that statement. It’s more of a complaint then an actual representation of their reality.

Life can never be too busy for the things that matter most. Pride and satisfaction are not found in busy. It doesn’t mean I don’t get things done. It just means I have to enjoy, do them calmly and with intent.

Yep, I am done being busy. That is no longer my response to life. Enjoy the weight that gets lifted off my back simply by changing my focus. Perception is reality and I don’t need busy to be my reality. I bet you’ll get even more done and have time left over to do the things you really care about.

Is Your Life Story Worth Reading?


Everyone has their own life story. Whether having the idea of being in love, having the perfect job, etc, but , and when it’s all been said and done, will yours be worth remembering?

Can this be a seminal moment of your life? Going forward, can you look back on what you are doing now and say “that’s when things really started to get going?” Well, on my early adulthood years, I’ve always have those question on my mind: “is my life story interesting? Something I’d read or watch? What does my story say about my life?” And, these kind of question are always give me some moments to think about things that I want to do, U see…

Better Than Fiction

In the movie “Stranger than Fiction,” Harold Crick, played by Will Farrell, discovers he is a character in a novel being written by a famous author. He begins to hear her narration in his head, and comes to realize his life is being told as a story.

In reality all of our lives are stories. Some people are part of the story, others aren’t. But it’s always our story, the narrative of our life. I used to pretend that my life is a book or movie. I’ve even imagined a narrator telling my story as I go about day by day.

What it all comes down to is this. Is the story worth reading? Not to anyone else necessarily, but is your story something you’d like to read? I just hope so..

Section Two – The Next Chapters

Every moment of our life is a turning point. Some are more memorable than others, but every decision we make influences how the next chapter of our story will read. No matter what’s happened in our story so far, the next section, and the chapters it contains, can be different. They can be better.

There comes a point where I have to look at what’s been written and decide if I want to continue with the story as it’s shaped up so far. Kind of like my own personal “Choose Your Own Adventure” book. As I contemplate becoming a real engineer, or explore taking my knowledge to the next level, look back on how my story has come together. See what have been the central moments, the ones I have consciously written, and those that seemed to “just happen to me.”

And, my big question for now, Where will this chapters in my story take me? Let’s keep moving forward…

It Goes On..


“In three words, I can sum up everything that I’ve learned about life: it goes on…” – Robert Frost

Most people change kind of slowly. They’re who they are, and then after a while, they’re someone else. But some people know the exact moment where their lives changed. It’s something they’ve gone through that makes everything they look at from that moment on seem very different from how it had always been.

You see, in this time, on my early adulthood, somehow, I felt that I need a mentor, who will help me to make sense of the world I am living in. But, after what I’ve been going through, I realized about the so called “Life is Teacher for each people”. I just think that all moments in my life is not coincidences and that every lesson that shown, is meant for me personally.

Usually, I like to think that I have some control over the events in my life. But then something happens to remind me that the world runs by its own rules, and that I’m just along for the ride. Well, I guess Life is one lessons after another. Some lessons are hard to learn, others are easy. But I really have no choice. I just need to view my life as a personal teacher, because It’s wasting time to spend the rest of days on cursing all the mistakes, errors or pains.

If I see myself a few years ago, I can see that everything is already different from how it had been. But, I think, I didn’t change, I just become who I really meant to be, through all life moments & its lessons..

If..


by : Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you,
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise..

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master,
If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same,
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools..

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss,
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And–which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son!

“That” Subject..

 

When you’ve already grown-up,
have graduated from college & have a stable job,
then, things such as love, serious relationship, and (even) marriage,
slowly starting to appear on the surface that hard to be ignored..


You know, When you’re single, and your friends or people that closed on your life start to get married, every wedding invitation presents a strange moment of self-evaluation. What it’s really asking is, “Where do you see yourself..??” The thing is, at this age, love is not supposed for just another “trial & error”, it just has to be really, really “right”, I mean, “the one”. And, to get that, it’s hard, honestly.. 🙂

Well, I know relationships aren’t easy, they’re “hard work”. It’s about compromise, growing together, and other crap list continued. But if it’s the right person, then it’s gonna be just easy. Looking at her and knowing she’s all I really want out of life, that should be the easiest thing in the world. Because, the best relationships are the ones that just come naturally. Have natural fun, easy, and simple, or uncomplicated. And, if it’s not like that, then it’s just not meant to be..

Because, if it’s too complicated, maybe it means that we don’t connect on fundamental levels. Then, of course there will be “break-up” & “drama” phase. And funny thing about break-up, there is no good way. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to do the right thing for break-up, there is always one side that have to face & deal with “humiliation”..

The point is, I’ve felt enough for “trial & error” phase. Because, I think I don’t want to just wasting my time, my energy, and of course my heart, to a girl that literally will not meant to be with me. What is the point of climbing a ladder if it’s leaning against “the wrong wall”, right..??

I know that odds are, She’s not gonna magically walk through that door, but this seems as nice a spot as any to just, sit and wait for a while, preparing myself on any side. Right now, I don’t know who she is, or, where or when We will meet. But, I think for the most part in my life, ultimately, I will only see what I want to see, when I’m ready to see it. And that’s all I’m gonna say to this very own subject… 🙂

The New Chapter of Moving Forward


It’s funny, sometimes I walk into a place I’ve never been before,
but I get the feeling that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.
So, never underestimate the power of destiny.
Because when I least expect it, suddenly my whole life change 180 degree..


Currently, I’m working for my new job, new place, new “direction”, and with a new people. A job that in my believe is the job that all engineer dream about. A job that provide me an opportunity to have a real career path, to grow, to learn, and also going overseas. Working in one of the biggest company in the world for Oil & Gas industry..

When you’re pushing adulthood, however, It’s easy to say you’re going to do something. It’s easy to be eager with words. Actions, actually, are much harder. You see, It’s almost 1,5 years of my graduation day from college, and living in a real world, working in the dynamism of Project. But, after involved on that job for almost 1,5 years, I can understand that I can’t spent my whole life living like that.

You see, of course there is a risk, still. I know, it’s really a big step that I’ve made for my career. This year will probably be one of my hardest,”and I know, once I’ve tasted this, I can’t turn back”, especially back to Project. There’s this thing about risks though, It’s easy to sign up, but it’s the follow-through that decides your character. So, I would like to focus for an opportunity of a lifetime like this, to pass the challenge of transitioning.

Because, really, given the opportunity to completely change your whole life, what you’re gonna do..?? That night, my father said to me, “Being normal gets you a middle-class life. It’s fifth place, and you know you want to be in first. All successful people then are understandably eccentric. They take risks that normal people wouldn’t.”

And, that’s the moment, see. The moment where I face all my fears in doubting myself  “can I answer the challenge or not”, something like that. Or the moment to decide whether I’m going to smile or freak-out, move forward or turn back.

And in case you were wondering… I jumped..!!! With a smile on my face.. All I hope, taking this chance means, I’ve arrived in my “destination”. Welcome to a new world, Met.. 🙂

The Changes..

Is every moment of our lives built into us before we’re born?
If it is, does that make us less responsible for the things we do?
Or is the responsibility built in too?

~Taken

I don’t know..
As I grow up, lots of things change.
More responsibilities, more issues to deal with.
There are no excuses for mistakes I make,
I’m responsible for my decisions, and it influence not just my life.
That makes things more complicated and less enjoyable..

I laugh less, I enjoy less, I forget to call people I care about.
Sometimes, I pretend to be too busy.
It is tougher to believe. Tougher to dream.
It is tougher to be just happy. Especially when I want more from life..

You see, sometimes, The time felt changing too.
24 hours are not enough anymore.
I have to run somewhere.
To fix this, to clear that, to “fight”, to argue,
to prove myself right, to learn new stuff,
to earn more money, to work more.
Deprived of the privilege to actually enjoy life..

I have a luggage of sad memories, happy memories too,
broken promises, lost friendships, and missed opportunities.
I know what it is like to believe, to hope, to dream.
But I also know how it feels when every promise,
every feeling, every dream would break into pieces.

I don’t know..
I just…forget what it means to be real.
To be human, to be myself.
And, I just felt that I’m not the same anymore..

A Reflection of Hope & Effort

Well, currently I’m in a really daring adventure month. Going from one opportunity to another opportunity and from one city to another city. Although I’m enjoying the challenge to experience “selling” my resume to someone else, but now, it strike my mind. Honestly, I just have a feeling that “selling” myself is kind of tough, quite tricky, and also can be brutal.

You know, still I’m a normal guy. That’s why it got me thinking. Between the rejections, the unanswered phone calls or unreturned emails, it’s making me to take it personally, kind of felt giving up altogether, and even worse, assume that they are “right” and I am “wrong” when my efforts go unrewarded.

Now, particularly in the face of rejection, I’m slightly starting to lose faith, and too many “no” sends me running for the bubble bath, where I sit and let the doubt creep in. “Maybe I’m in the wrong business, “Maybe I’m going for a job that’s just way too competitive,” or ” Maybe I’m a total idiot for thinking this would ever work out at all,” I wonder.

But, complaining will just make things worse, right..??

Call me the crazy optimist, but I’d like to think that most of us won’t let a few measly rejections get in the way of pursuing an opportunity that really matters to us, and that there really is room at the top for more than one. If you’re in agreement, then we’ve got to believe in ourselves like never before, rather than feel like a victim of circumstances.

You’ve heard it before, but allow me to repeat this obvious truth: “If I don’t believe in myself, then who will..??” So, now is really not the good time for give up..

I’m writing this article just to renew my confidence, you know..
As a reflection about what I’m going through right now, about my Hope & Effort..
After all, one more “no” is closer to a “yes”, I hope… 🙂

It’s Called, Dreams

This week, I’m kind of back to “square one” in order to pursuit what I want. And on this week, I can feel that life is an amazing thing. Why? Well, try to round the Moon clockwise, and whether it is 1950, 2010 or the year 3009, pretty much life is same. Yes, technology changes, lifestyles & types of jobs may change, but overall life is same.

It’s all about to make a so called “dreams” come true.

In My Humble Opinion, some people see life as a big test, others see life as something to experience, enjoy and learn from. Whatever you view life as, I’m sure that there is one aspect that keeps you alive, and that is your dreams.

You see, so many people fail in life because they are happily sailing along, thinking they are headed somewhere, but the road of life has a bend in the road. Instead of adjusting, people smack bang into the wall. From there they get off the high way, and float. Then, they tend to agree with parents that life is hard, and there is no point to anything!

I’ve met some people that give up trying. This is unfortunate but it happens in many cases. After all that is life, and if you are to grow in life, you have to have a bit of stress! As the saying goes, if it doesn’t “kill” you, it can only make you stronger!

A dream is essential, and without it, people perish. Look around and you will see this true. I have found that a lot of people dream, they may even try. But what happens? They try and they meet failure on first attempt, so they stop trying. Another tries a bit more, and failure after failure, they are knocked out of the game.

In my personal story, I’ve tried so hard to make all my dreams come true. Going from one opportunity to another opportunity. And honestly, I’ve experienced the fail, a lot.

But, I do believe,
that my life is defined by its opportunities, even the ones I miss
..

And, I won’t give up, because
I want to prove to myself,
that I can learn how to dance through life on difficult times..

The Story is Not Over Yet..

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What is the purpose of Life..?? I don’t know the answer for that honestly.
What is the purpose of  MY LIFE.??
Well this is an entirely different query altogether,
and this question does have an answer.
But, I don’t want to make you boring with my life purpose story.
Instead, I just want to tell you about the perspective..

I guess, the one size fits all reason for me, being here is,
to learn, to grow in my understanding of myself – .

The lessons I live through are sometimes quite challenging.
I know it’s probably not a revelation that growing-up does have its pains.
But I do understand that there is never any reason for me to be discouraged.
Today’s trials are destined to be tomorrow’s enlightenments.
Difficult situations arise in my experience
to either make me aware of my strengths,
or to inspire me to walk in a new direction…

Well now,
I find myself feeling overwhelmed by the daunting circumstances in my life.
But, this is the time to stop, take a breath, step back within myself
and just remember that this story I’m living in,
in this moment is far from over yet.
There is indeed much more to come, many more moments to experience.
What I’m going through now is only one scene of a much bigger storyline.
And there will be more to see if I just keep moving. Move through it…

Life’s little stings,
which are meant to motivate my spiritual growth,
don’t usually hurt as bad as we ultimately make it hurt for ourselves
by refusing to let go of the thing that is stinging us.
The pain I’ve suffered will move when I move, when I stop holding onto it.
When I resolve to go forward and actually see how the story I’m living evolves from the mess it may seem to be now…

So, I don’t want to hit the pause during this time,
because I want to watch the rest of the story of my life unfold.
Hope feeds on motion.
So keep it moving, because The story is not over yet