No matter what you want in life,
you’ve got to take that first step..
Regardless how much metawork we do,
or how much we talk about what we want to accomplish,
in the end, it’s our actions that define whether we fail or succeed.
Take a step, even if it’s a small step..
I remember when I was teenager, that I used to say, “Someday I’ll become that person, someday I’ll get everything that I want, someday, and someday”. Even when I was in college, this “someday things” became part of me also. “Someday I will be rich, someday I’ll go looking for better job, someday I’ll travel the world, etc, etc”..
The truth is, this someday things are growth with me, that make so accustomed that there will be a someday in my life where everything will finally come together. I have to admit it feels good to write today in these new ground rules. Because these someday things are lies, lies, lies… It’s seems almost unfair that at such a young age we buy into these lies and get stuck forever in this fairy tale idea of life.
Yup, in all honesty, “someday” has no definition, no designated spot on the calendar. Without any objective marker that makes us accountable. Or simply said, someday = never. And, in my personal experience, it makes to me to keep putting things off for so long that me either become too old to do them or I simply lose hope or interest in achieving that thing.
We’re always waiting for the perfect moment, for the perfect circumstances or some divine intervention or guarantee that we cannot fail for us to actually go and take action to make our dreams come true. It’s like, the longer I wait, the smaller that window of opportunity becomes… until someday, that window of opportunity is gone and it’s too late. Isn’t it?
Have you seen this?
What happens to your overweight friend who says they’ll go on a diet and lose pounds “someday”? One, two, three years later, not only have they not gone on that diet, they have gained even more fat to adorn their waistline.
What happens to the person who says I’ll stop buying gadgets impulsively “someday”? Six months down the road, they have more junk they don’t use, and a burgeoning debt that threatens to crush their ability to save for anything!
What happens to the person who says, “I’ll start a business and free myself from my corporate prison”. Or, people that “want to move to another company that will provide better work/life balance and better salary, someday”? 3 years later, they’re still housed in that cozy little cubicle, hating their job and their life, complaint much to work 12 hours a day, 6 days a week.
The Reality is those Someday are Today
Stop believing there will be someday when the reality is today. There is no perfect moment. The timing is never right. There is no guarantee of success. And the longer you wait, the smaller that window of opportunity becomes… until someday, that window of opportunity is gone and it’s too late.
The ‘someday’ trap brings our goals to a standstill. It plays havoc with our future. It kills productivity. It causes procrastination. If you allow yourself to let ‘someday’ be a part of your thinking it will be very difficult to move your career forward and reach your life goals.
Someday is NOT a day of the week. How about a new way of thinking? How about having ‘someday’ be today? You can’t do everything at once, of course, so you’ll have to make choices. Choose to do the things that are important to you and your goals and let the other things go.
For this year, when I change my thinking to ‘today’ instead of ‘someday’, I’m not only going to feel better about myself, but I’ve moved my career in the right direction: forward. In that way, I able to challenge myself to make dreams become reality.
The simple honest truth is that, nothing will be finished by tomorrow if it’s not started by today… While it may sound cliche, “the journey of 1000 miles, start with a single step”, right? I mean, we can’t wait for our life to begin to be what we want it to be. We have to operate on the premise that we can’t wait for someday to make changes. We have to take steps today to make those changes.
But, of course, it’s up to you to make that happen and to stop waiting for someday… For me, those “someday” are now, and “the rest of my life” start today. The thing is, as the saying goes, when it comes to the future, there are three kinds of people, “those who let it happen, those who make it happen, and those who wonder what happened”… I’m sure we all want to be a person “who make it happen”, right?