It’s pretty safe to say that at the end of the day, there are really only one or two things that truly matter. I don’t know, for you, maybe it’s making money with an amazing career, finding fame or prestige, have a stable relationship, etc. Wouldn’t you agree that an ultimate intention in life is to live well and be happy?
You know, the average person is living in a reality that is a reflection of the ideas and images in the world around them, rather than a reflection of what’s in their own mind.. That’s why, they don’t feel happy..Well, I’ve been lucky enough to meet some truly happy people over this few years, and I’ve learned lot from them.
They Know What Really Matters
It’s so easy to become swept up in a busy life, isn’t it? People jump hurdles just to convince themselves that it’s time to work on those all important and possibly life – changing goals, then they wake up one day and realize 10 years has passed. The truth is, that it’s hard enough to commit to doing what’s really important even if you know what ‘it’ is. But, what all I can see, they just know what really matters that related with things that actually they needed. In simple sentences, they know their priority, and just focussed on it.
They Don’t Blame Others
People don’t care about you, mostly. This isn’t because people are mean or hurtful, but simply because they are mostly focused on themselves. People who appear to be mean or hurtful don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions to this, but generally the hurt you feel is a side-effect, not the principle cause. Then I understand, it’s just wasting time and energy to blame others for what I felt.
They Don’t Feel to Become a Victim
For some stages of my life, I’ve seen this one. To be a victim of a system, or decision, etc (you name it..!!). You know, the victim mentality is one that unfortunately is somewhat supported by members of society. People always tell you how bad they feel for you, how sorry they are. I’m all for sympathy and being kind to people, but when I decided to wallow in all of this, actually, I’ve became a victim. Then I lived in a constant battling against myself that begin to forget who I really am. Soon after that, I realized that happiness is kind of to accept what happened and just move on…No less, no more…
They Learn Not to Make Excuses, Justify, or Cop Out
Sometimes life happens and the best made plans are laid to waste (and there’s nothing I can do about it). Fair enough, but the worst part after that is falling out into a pattern of constantly excusing the lazy behavior. Over the years, I’ve noticed there is one very clear distinction between those who get great results and those who don’t – the ability to make excuses or cop out. “I had a headache, I didn’t feel well; my boss kept me back, I slept through my alarm; I just didn’t have time, etc, etc..” Then I realized, when something is important, they’ll make time. And the best part of that? Nothing beats the feeling of making a commitment to yourself and keeping it. Week in, week out…
They Stop Struggling, or Worrying, but Just Enjoy Living
Life doesn’t need to go through a predictable story arc. It doesn’t have to start with a dream, follow through hard work and end up in a nice home with four bedrooms. Instead, it can twist and travel. We don’t have to know the final answer, but just need to act on the next step, right..??So, instead of worrying about the destination, just enjoy the process, step by step…