Sometimes, things need to fall apart,
to make way for better things..
The eggs are already broken.
So, let’s make sure,
We get a pretty good omelet out of it..
(~Ted – HIMYM)
“Adulthood” isn’t a tangible thing that people can suddenly possess. There were a time, when I wake up in the morning, it felt like life was out to get me. It seems that my life has veered off its anticipated “track” while everyone else’s is charging ahead. To be honest, it create some inevitable anxiety.
I know that, entering the real world can sometimes feel like stepping into a horribly disappointing surprise party. Surprise! It’s the worst job market in decades. Surprise! It cost a quarter of your paycheck. Surprise! Your favorite artist fantasy lied—about everything. And on it goes..
While it’s easy to project our feelings of anxiety as surprised when others taking a huge step on their life, but maybe that shiny new diamond is just one part of the story. So, I’m kind of realized that there’s just something about my life that I have yet to figure out, and I think it’s a Self-Acceptance.
Since I’ve graduate from college, I lived in various city in this country. At some point, having a chance getting to know lot of people (with different ethnic backgrounds, from different cities and countries, who live at various socioeconomic levels), I begin to understand that everyone basically wants the same things. The way we pursue these desires is where things branch off, but the fundamentals are the same. I can easily notice that, people want validation, love, happiness, fulfillment and hopes for a better future.
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Yup, we want the same things, and we pursue the same objectives. So it got me thinking, that for the most part, the main idea is to be good to myself. I don’t have to “judge” myself in a harsh way. Strength, success and contentment come from being comfortable in our own skin. Because, the only shoes I can occupy, are my own shoes.
Maybe, I was a naive optimist. But, the thing in my head for now, is to remember, at any given moment, I’m in competition with one person and one person only – myself. I am competing to be the best I can be, I mean the best version of me.
So, as the saying goes, it’s not really about the hours in a day or the days in a week. It’s not about what company I’ve been working. It’s also not about where a place that I’m living. It’s all about having enough energy and being focused “first thing first” on the right things.
Life isn’t a race, and each people follow a path all their own. Like my senior said yesterday, “Don’t fight it, just accept it, because you begin to find what you’re looking for in life when you begin to look for what you’re finding”.. Yeah, damn harsh truth..!!
I feel like there is an opportunity in my life right now to learn about balance. Balancing my needs between what I think I want and what I actually need and somehow sorting out the grey area in between. That is, learning to accept what I actually have.
And when I say “have”, I’m not just talking about material possessions. I’m talking about a burden on my heart to accept everything in life – in all its “as-is”, and just… accept what life throws at me…and fighting hard to make the pretty good omelet out of it..